While orgasms are often seen as the ultimate expression of pleasure, some people derive unique satisfaction from “ruining” an orgasm or experiencing one themselves. Ruining an orgasm involves interrupting or reducing stimulation to prevent a full or satisfying climax. This can be done by stopping abruptly, lowering intensity, or even introducing elements of pain or BDSM play.

Ruined orgasms are generally divided into two categories:

• Complete Ruined Orgasms: The climax is entirely prevented.
• Partial Ruined Orgasms: The orgasm is achieved but with reduced intensity, making it less satisfying.

This practice, often incorporated into role-playing or BDSM dynamics, is especially appealing to those who enjoy giving up or taking control in intimate scenarios.

Who Are Ruined Orgasms For?

Ruined orgasms are ideal for couples or partners curious about exploring dynamics of control and submission. If the thought of surrendering your pleasure to your partner or playing with limits excites you, this could be a practice worth trying.

However, this kind of play may not suit individuals who already struggle to reach orgasm, such as some women. For men, ruined ejaculations are more common and often enjoyed.

Why Do People Enjoy Ruined Orgasms?

Here are some reasons why this practice can be appealing:

• Loss of Control: Submissive partners often enjoy the dominant having complete control over their pleasure.
• Pain: Some individuals enjoy the discomfort associated with a ruined orgasm.
• Humiliation: It can be part of humiliation play, where the partner must "earn" their pleasure.

How to Ruin an Orgasm

Successfully ruining an orgasm requires good timing and technique. Here’s how you can do it:

Timing Matters

Learn to recognize the signs that your partner is close to climaxing, such as rapid breathing, muscle tension, facial expressions, or specific movements. Timing is crucial to achieving the desired effect.

Common Techniques

1. Reduce Stimulation: Lower intensity at the critical moment, such as loosening your grip.
2. Withdrawal: Stop penetration just before your partner orgasms.
3. Edging: Tease and stimulate your partner to the brink of orgasm, then abruptly stop.

Adding Exciting Elements

• Bondage: Use ropes or leather restraints from Latexy to immobilize your partner and heighten their sense of control loss.
• Dirty Talk: Verbally tease your partner, emphasizing that they need to "earn" their release.
• Pain: If within your agreed boundaries, incorporate impact play with paddles or whips.

Safety and Ruined Orgasms

Ruined orgasms are generally safe when done correctly. However, certain practices, such as using devices that block the urethra, require extra care. Always discuss limits, consent, and aftercare with your partner to ensure a positive experience.

With clear communication and established boundaries, ruined orgasms can be an exciting and daring addition to your sexual repertoire.